This blog is inspired by a Hong Kong comedian actor. Who he is doesn’t matter, the inspiration does. When I come to know an actor, I know them from the movies and the roles they play in them. For this actor, his forte is comedy. He even does standup comedy in front of thousands of live audiences and ran his own show. We tend to generalize what we see on TV will mostly reflect to some level of similarity to the real life behavior of the actor. When I think of an actor, I usually think he/she is an extrovert, outgoing, sociable, and along with other traits like funny, handsome, pretty, attractive… etc. I mean, don’t you need to be like that in order to be an actor, especially a main character that is being followed by paparazzi everywhere and being in front of screens all the time? Don’t you have to have exceptional public speaking skills and the ability to speak on your feet?
Well, when I came across a personal interview of this actor, I learned many surprising things about him that is opposite of what I formulated in my mind. The image that I created from his movies was completely different than the real him. I learned that he never intended to be a comedian. I learned that he wanted to act in serious movies. Because of circumstances, he was pushed to be a comedian, and to his surprise, it was a successful path and therefore he continued down that road.
Life is quite weird. It sometime leads you to another total different path than your original intention that you never thought you would ever capable of doing. However, when facing adversity, humans can adapt quickly and push ourselves to thrive by creating multi-dimensional of ourselves. The actor has becomes a sociable person, an extrovert, outspoken, and funny… while he is on his job only! This makes me correlate and reflect to my own life. Have you ever encounter adversity and you had to cope and adapt to the changes that you must make to thrive? I certainly had!
My Personality VS. My Job
Similar to the actor, I consider myself a relatively shy and quiet person. I am an absolute introvert and do not like to be in the focus of attention or on a spotlight. To give you a sense of perspective, growing up, I hardly made any friends in school. By the time I graduated through high school and college, you can use your fingers to count the friends I have, and you wouldn’t even need to raise all of them.
Everyone has dreams. Mine, I wouldn’t say it was a big dream or something I’m super serious or try very hard to achieve. I guess I can call it “thought” or “imagination” instead of dream. In college, I did think about being a teacher. However, the thought of being in front of the classroom, and picturing myself unable to answer a student’s question in front of everyone – that deterred me from pursuing that vision. By random chance, I ended up getting into the science field and ended up working in a laboratory as a lab testing personnel. Quickly, I learned that I have to interact with other people – my coworkers, my boss, and attending lab meetings. Quickly, I found myself having to answer phone calls, speaking to random clients, completely stranger, on the other side of the phone — I don’t even talk on the phone with my own friends and family much — leave alone the difficulty of having to answer to requests that I am completely clueless. Needless to say, it didn’t take long for me to realize that I needed another “dimension” of myself.
It was not an overnight task to build a new dimension of myself. I sought help, and I discovered Toastmasters, a public speaking organization that helps people improve their public speaking confidence and leadership skills. I was part of the group for almost 4 years before I took on the opportunity to compete in a speech contest. When I was pushed by my club members to compete, I thought I would just lose out on round 1. Indeed, I did lose. I was so nervous that I forgot my words while I was speaking at my club. Because it was just an internal club contest, there were only 3 of us total, and I got placed 2nd place. However, I had the opportunity to advance to the Area Contest level for being 2nd place that year because there weren’t as many competitors, so they allowed each club to send 2 contestants.
I practiced really hard. I made edits to improve my speech. I rehearse each day after work, over and over and over. I must have practiced and made small edits for over a hundred times throughout my entire competition adventure – I made it through the Area Contest, the Division Contest, and made it to the District Contest Level. That is much farther than the club contest level that I originally thought. What happened? The short answer is my hard work paid off.
The long answer is, I didn’t even realize I have created a new dimension of myself. When I was on the stage, I am no longer the old me. Instead, I tell myself I am a performer! If I am on the stage, I have to give it all out and do not hold back, and there’s nothing to lose. So who do the audiences and the judges see on the stage? A new dimension of me – a person who is so funny although it is self-deprecating, speak loudly and confidently although with flaw of pronunciation, and someone who has a passion to share a learning lesson with my listeners.
I became more popular. People come up to me and greet me. They told me how much they enjoyed my speech. They love listening to me speak! They told me things that I never think I was capable of doing – leave alone of doing so well, as winning 1st place in a competition. That gave me a big confident boost and I continued Toastmaster and competed in many more contests after that, and I gained more experience and earned more success in the Toastmaster and public speaking arena. Ultimately, I applied for a Education Specialist job in a lab and got the promotion – I am now a TEACHER in the laboratory, educating students, employees, and managing a lot of lab tours and presentations and leading lab meetings and such – things that I would never see myself doing if I look back in the rear mirror of when I was a college student.
Today, I’m still an introvert. I’m still not sociable. And I’m still consider myself a shy person. However, I talk when I need to, I am funny around people I am comfortable with, and I love being in the spotlight when I think people should give me their full attention as I’m lecturing. I have built a new dimension of myself through adversity. I am now able to switch to my new dimension when I am at work, and also when I am not at work if I feel so! When I went on a cruise trip, I got on the stage and sang a Karaoke song for the first time of my life. And no, when I was on the stage, I wasn’t like most other people who just sang. I was a performer when I was on the stage. I transform into my new dimension, and I give it all. I moved my feet, I moved my body, I gave them my facial expression that emanate the energy of the song, and people cheered and sang along and some people even pulled out their phone and waved it with their flashlight mode on.
Final Thoughts
We need to be flexible and adapt to what we need to do in certain circumstance. Work is usually the place where we must make the changes to fit the tasks that we are assigned to complete. When there is not an option, then we are forced to create a new dimension of ourselves. Those who fail, or more like refusing to do so, are often the ones who find themselves stuck in an endless pit of struggle filled with failures.
I think having internal self-talk conversation with yourself is important. In my example, telling myself that when I am on the stage, on the spotlight, whether it is at a speech contest, at a lecture hall, or at a Karaoke stage – I am a performer, I am here for my audiences, my students, and my listeners. I’m here to teach, to inspire, and to entertain. Nobody want to see a shy, hiding in my turtle shell and being small, or a person who is lack of confidence. If you can overcome your internal self who keeps telling you that you can’t do it, that you won’t win, that nobody cares about what you say, and all those negative thoughts – you will realize you are capable of doing things that you never think you can do, and doing it with much better results than anyone would ever expect you could do.
If you haven’t started building a new dimension of yourself yet, today is a good day to start. This isn’t something you can create over a day, a month, or even a year. It is something that you have to continuously push yourself to face adversity and just give it all in. Remember when I said I practiced my contest speech for over 100 times? I was not over-exaggerating. It was probably the ONE thing that I did in my life where I actually pushed and forced myself to do EVERY DAY for a long duration of time (a few months). The final result is HARD WORKS PAID OFF, and that was the turning point and marked the completion of my new dimension.
Build well!